Flexibility: Growing Through the Unexpected
By Mary Andres Russell
A friend once told me that having a child with Down syndrome is like planning a trip to Paris and ending up in Brussels — not what you expected, but still a beautiful journey. The comparison may simplify the experience, yet it captures the heart of flexibility: life rarely goes according to plan.
We all face moments like this. My husband’s unexpected complications from shoulder surgery and our early step into grandparenthood were surprises we never saw coming — one painful, one joyful. Both required us to adapt, and both ultimately strengthened our marriage.
Think back over the last 10–20 years. What surprises shaped your path? What challenges or blessings forced you to adjust?
Flexibility is what helps us meet these moments with resilience instead of resistance. It keeps us open, steady, and willing to shift when life changes direction. And that openness is what allows us to thrive.
This month, notice the moments that ask you to bend. Take a breath, soften your stance, and see what unfolds. Flexibility won’t stop life’s surprises, but it will help you move through them with strength and grace.
The Links below will take you to Resources you can use with the family or within community organizations
to teach the Character Quality of Flexibility.
The following activities are related to dates this month and can relate to any character quality or good character in general.
September Character All Month
See NationalToday, AndTodayIs, NationalDayCalendar or DaysOfTheYear for more information on these and other holidays to celebrate this month. Holidays with Always-On Dates 5 International Day of Charity Today we celebrate the International Day of #Charity. It...
First Day Of Autumn
Varies between September 21 and 24Make a Character Tree to identify character-based behavior on which you can focus. You can either draw or print a picture of a tree. Write suggestions of good behaviors on cutouts of leaves. If you write in a bold black marker, the...
Day of Encouragement
Always September 12Day of Encouragement was started in 2007 by a group of Searcy, Arkansas teenagers who felt that encouragement could help many teens face their problems. The Mayor of Searcy proclaimed September 12, Day of Encouragement. A similar proclamation was...
Our other Pillars have resources that can be used in a community or family setting.
Visit Flexibility in School:
Activities
No Matter How You Say It
Curriculum Connections
Croskey’s Corner
Visit Flexibility in Business:
Teambuilding
Power Up with Character
Interview Questions
Adult Business Books
Visit Flexibility in Faith:
Christian Family Activity
Bible Verses
Christian Poster
Prayer and Reflections
Archived Resources

