Compassion In the Community

vs. indifference

Helping those who are hurting

To practice Compassion, I will:

  • notice when others are hurting
  • be kind regardless of differences
  • listen when others want to talk
  • stop to help
  • treat myself kindly without indulging

You OK?

By Mary Andres Russell

When our granddaughter was only three years old, she would occasionally ask me a sweet and endearing question, “You OK?” She would be in the other room playing and would call out, “You OK Mimi?” She was checking-in with care and sweet compassion.

When my stepson was 16, he played basketball in a church league. My husband was assistant coach, and I was privileged to sit on the bench as scorekeeper. I noticed that every time a player came out of the game for a substitution, the head coach asked, “You OK?” A show of concern, a checking-in.

“You OK?” Such a simple question. If we listen to the answer, we can create an opportunity for connecting and healing.

Recently, a friend told me about her college-aged daughter, who has struggled for years with anxiety. My friend and her husband provide support through encouraging texts. When the daughter steps out into new or challenging situations, she texts her parents, “Am I OK?”  They respond with a resounding “Yes!!!” or longer messages of encouragement.

Compassion is taking the time to help others heal. People heal through conversation, through their tears, through prayer, and through caring concern.

In 1982, my father died after a lengthy battle with cancer. For the next six months, my mother told anyone who would listen to the story of his struggle. In telling the story, little by little, she was healing. 

By truly listening, acknowledging others’ feelings, and not necessarily trying to fix them, we can help others heal. “You OK?” This month, ask this simple question, listen to the answer, open your heart, and create a space for healing.

The Links below will take you to Resources you can use with the family or within community organizations
to teach the Character Quality of Compassion.
The following activities are related to dates this month and can relate to any character quality or good character in general.

November Character All Month

See NationalToday, Checkiday and Happy Days 365 for more information on these and other holidays to celebrate this month. 1 Extra Mile Day How will you go above and beyond on #ExtraMileDay?  You are an agent of #Change no matter how small the action.  #Generosity ...

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is a national holiday with a focus on Gratefulness. This Thanksgiving, post a whiteboard, chalkboard, or poster board where those gathered for Thanksgiving can write public statements of what they are grateful for this year. Leave it where anyone can...

World Kindness Day Nov. 13

  Create a calendar for the rest of this month all the way to the end of December. Have the family come up with ideas for kindness for every day until the end of the year. You can use the calendar to identify what you should be doing that day, or you can treat...

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